Driving seems to bring out the worst in people, and it doesn’t matter which country you live in, the case is pretty much the same. Steve and I do not believe we are alone reacting the way we do when someone cuts us off – with the typical “you fucking bloody idiot, what do you think you’re doing!” escaping our lips. However, we’ve got two very impressionable little loves sitting in the back seat these days, and after Jax said one too many fucks at school, his extremely religious teacher had a little word with us – ooops. We needed to change our ways… well a little.
The thing is, I’m not much of a screamer when it comes to dealing with idiots on the road, but if they’re putting my mini-men’s lives at risk, I do have a tendency to explode. My husband, on the other hand, is definitely a screamer. When we first met, it was constant, and then I explained that the only person impacted by his rants was me, so why bother? He toned it down, but as a super protective husband and Dad, he can’t always control himself.
However, a solution was required and we decided that blowing kisses to bad drivers was a terrific way to deal with the situation. When we do it we feel better and immediately calmer, it’s a bit tongue-in-cheek so we laugh, and the boys are learning that when someone is driving like an arsehole, the best thing to do is blow them a kiss. Cool – we like that one.
But then you get off the roads and blowing kisses to rude arseholes can look a bit weird, so I took on board Deepak Chopra’s lesson of giving people silent gifts of love and joy – I just decided to apply it in a different way. My tactic is this – if someone is rude to me, ungracious, pushy, ignorant, or just plain horrible, I picture a big ball of white light in my heart and send that ball of light to their heart, picturing that ball where their heart is ,and then I silently wish them love and joy always. It’s simple, effective and it works for me.
Some people believe this action is a direct energy transfer and if more of us did it, the world would be a better place. The belief is that if we all offer the silent gift of love and joy (or abundance or wealth, or success, or whatever) to everyone we interact with every day, we can raise the energy levels in our world up to a higher and more peaceful frequency. That’s a very good thing right?
I have absolutely no idea if this is true, but I feel that it could be. However, the one thing I do know is this: when I offer the silent gift of love and joy to horrible people, I immediately feel better. I don’t go where they are, I don’t return the aggression, and as such, negative experiences leave me feeling peaceful, happy and calm. So my conclusion is: if it makes me feel better then that is a good enough reason to do it.
As such I wanted to share it as people seem to enjoy my blogs on this sort of stuff.
Now if someone was verbally bitch-slapping my kids, I wouldn’t be sending them love and joy, ‘cos that’s when the protective Mumma comes out, but that’s another blog.
Anyone else do this? Or have another strategy that works for them? You know I’d love to know right? Also if you decide to give it a go, let me know if it makes you feel better? That’s the purpose of doing it after-all.
Yours, without the bollocks
Andrea
